I’m so sorry to hear what you’re enduring, I feel for you. I know what its like. When my honey found out she was in trouble, we assumed we had six months. But surprisingly she went five years.
Its probably not practical for your distant location, but if it is, my wife’s surgeon, Doctor James D. Sullivan from North Shore University Hospital, Manhasset, L.I. N.Y. does the whipple operation. He’s well known and the best of the best around here.
Maybe your Dr. can at least consult with him on the phone? Google him.