From pre-teens I pretty much made my own way and did whatever needed done myself… and I did receive much help from others who saw that I was always striving to do more and do better…. and I never held out my hand and asked for something for nothing…and I never helped anyone who was sitting on their ass with a sign saying “Please Help, I’m Hungry”.
There Ain’t No Free Lunch folks but here’s some free Silverngold advice FWIW: Anything works if you do!